Relationship Growth Assessment

The Relationship Growth Assessment looks at two things that shape a romantic relationship: your attachment style (secure, anxious or avoidant, from the Adult Attachment Scale) and how you tend to handle conflict (competing, collaborating, compromising, avoiding or accommodating). 38 items; about 8 minutes.

Please reflect on your relationship and rate each statement.

Your Name Client Code (provided by your therapist)

Question 1 of 38

I find it relatively easy to get close to others

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Question 2 of 38

I am comfortable depending on others

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Question 3 of 38

I know that others will be there when I need them

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Question 4 of 38

I do not often worry about being abandoned

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Question 5 of 38

I do not worry about someone getting too close to me

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Question 6 of 38

I am comfortable having others depend on me

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Question 7 of 38

I am not sure that I can always depend on others to be there when I need them

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Question 8 of 38

I often worry that my partner does not really love me

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Question 9 of 38

I find that others are reluctant to get as close as I would like

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Question 10 of 38

I often worry that my partner will not want to stay with me

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Question 11 of 38

I want to merge completely with another person

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Question 12 of 38

My desire to merge sometimes scares people away

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Question 13 of 38

I find it difficult to allow myself to depend on others

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Question 14 of 38

People are never there when you need them

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Question 15 of 38

I find it difficult to trust others completely

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Question 16 of 38

I am somewhat uncomfortable being close to others

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Question 17 of 38

I am nervous when anyone gets too close

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Question 18 of 38

Partners often want me to be more intimate than I feel comfortable being

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Question 19 of 38

I try to investigate an issue with my partner to find a solution acceptable to both of us